the rector and the community of San Rocco are glad to share your joy,
at the time of your marriage and, if you remain part of the community,
for many years to come. We will do all we can to help you prepare
for a happy life together, with the grace that is given through Jesus
Christ. The Catholic Church has many programs, services, and
traditions that are meant to help you get ready for marriage and to work
together, to build up your family bond. We are at your service.
What You Will Want to Consider
For every marriage at San Rocco Oratory, Father Gilligan has to obtain written delegation
from the local vicar of Cardinal George, namely Most Rev. Joseph
Perry. By and large, this is merely a matter of routine
formality. The Archdiocese of Chicago has a number of policies for weddings; these guidelines are mostly a reflection of the general law of the Roman Rite.
example, the rector of San Rocco will meet with you, in part to fill
out a marriage form, for both bride and groom. This
interview, given privately to each person, is to give you the
opportunity to bring up anything you would like and to confirm that
there is no obstacle in the way of the marriage.
ensure that neither party was married before and that both parties are
ready for marriage, affidavits may be required for both bride and
groom. These affidavits can be filled out in any Catholic parish,
anywhere, by parents or good friends. For the same purpose, a
recent baptism certificate is needed for each Catholic party that was
baptized. If you were baptized at San Rocco parish, the records are
downtown in the archives center. In the left column, you want to click on Sacramental Records Request.
You can get the necessary records easily by mail. It has to
be a recent certificate, so that we can check for a notation of
marriage. This requirement is a check, to see if an individual is
already married or not. That's why an old certificate is not
useful for this purpose.
general, Catholics are not permitted to marry people who are not
Catholic. This is so for the good of the marriage and the
preservation of the faith. However, for a good reason, it is possible to
apply for a dispensation,
an exception to the general law. If such a dispensation is
granted, the Catholic party has to promise to do everything possible to
raise the children in the Catholic faith. This is so because
we believe that the Catholic Church has everything that Christ wants us
to have, to be happy in this life and in the next, for example, all
seven sacraments. In
the case of a marriage between a Catholic party and another, marriage
will take place in church, within a Liturgy of the Word, not a Mass.
either bride or groom is not Catholic, then the rector will apply for a
dispensation in writing; this is yet another form. Dispensations
are routinely granted, for any good reason. If either party was
married before, and if the previous partner is still living, then we
have to find out if the previous marriage was valid or not.
What You Will Want to Schedule
you want to schedule a wedding on Sunday, it would be appropriate for
you to celebrate your marriage during the regular 10 a.m. Mass.
This way, the regular San Rocco community would celebrate with you and
welcome you as a married couple. There would also be no dilution
of the gathering for Sunday Mass, by drawing people away to another
Eucharist on this day. Monday through Saturday, your wedding may
be scheduled at any time, as you wish, even in the evening, say at 7
p.m. It's up to you.
you wish, a Christian pastor, a Protestant, can participate in the
wedding, in several ways; he or she would be a welcome guest. If
people will be celebrating with you who do not share the Catholic
tradition, we will do our best to make them and everyone feel
welcome. If either bride or groom is Eastern
Orthodox, we will help you make arrangements to have the
wedding in an Eastern Orthodox Church. For the Roman Catholic
party, we will apply for permission to do so.
we would schedule a rehearsal the evening before the wedding, say, at 7
p.m. This rehearsal is mainly for the benefit of those in the
bridal party, so they can practice the opening procession and
be at ease during the liturgy.
you wish to schedule a reception and dinner in our new hall, directly
to the east of the parking lot, you are welcome to do so. We have
complete kitchen and dining facilities, for your convenience. You
could certainly have a rehearsal dinner there, as well as the more
formal dinner you may be planning for the wedding itself. To
reserve the hall, call Fred LoBue at (815) 466-0376.
both bride and groom are Catholic, preparation will be easier.
Usually, a Mass would be appropriate for the celebration, as the couple
decides. With a shared faith, too, your
marriage may well be reinforced and enriched.
Whatever the case, the couple must meet with Father Gilligan at (708) 331-5485. Here are directions.
Go north on Halsted, turn east on 163rd (Taft). Go one mile east
to State Street and Taft. Enter by the black stairs and ring
the doorbell. When you come, you will get some booklets to help
you plan your wedding. You can choose the Scripture readings, the
Marriage Preparation Programs Available for You
The Archdiocese of Chicago offers a wide variety of marriage preparation programs,
at many locations and convenient dates. You can make your
own choice among these various offerings. These programs are not
so oriented towards the church service as much as to your life in
common, in the years to come. There are also marriage programs for the newly married.
Resources You Can Use
There's an excellent planning guide available online at the ACP Family Bookstore.
Here, online, you can find specific music suggestions, a search engine
for available sheet music, general purpose websites for wedding
preparation, resources on marriage tradition, and guides for weddings in
tradition. Most important of all, the ACP Family Bookstore
provides a fine choice of practical books you can use. Of them all, you may wish to consider Your Catholic Wedding: A Complete Planbook by Christopher Aridas. Also useful are planning books by Father Joseph Champlain. He has a book for a wedding within a Mass and another book for a wedding with just a Liturgy of the Word. Consult, however, the complete list, to see what you would most benefit from, at the ACP Family Bookstore. Order what you need online, for your convenience.